What Is The Difference Between Bondage and BDSM?

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What Is the difference between Bondage and BDSM?

Being adventurous in the bedroom can boost your sex life with your partner. It can improve the relationship and intimacy both of you share.

Bondage and BDSM are great ways you can spice up your bed habits. As sexual pleasures vary from couple to couple, these practices hinge on consent and negotiation. Partners cannot go beyond what they agreed on.

Untrue stories about bondage and BDSM have made couples shy away from them. These tales are most times shared by people who have not tried any of the BDSM act for the first time. However, once you get past the lies and myths, you will enjoy the fun that comes with the kinkiness of the play.

Tying up, spanking, role-playing all forms under BDSM. How far you decide to go in your kinky stuff will determine whether you are engaged in the bondage act of BDSM or you are walking further beyond that.

 

Difference Between Bondage and BDSM?

What Is the difference between Bondage and BDSM?

The main difference between these two is that all (sexual or kinky) bondage is a part of BDSM. But not all BDSM activities include bondage. Bondage is an aspect of BDSM. It is a subdivision from BDSM (the B in the abbreviation)

 

Bondage

This kind of sexual practice involves restraining one’s partner to derive pleasure. This can be done using ropes, belts, cuffs, amongst others. It is often the first step taken by couples who intend to push the boundaries of their sexual life.

Bondage ranges from a loosely tied rope on the group to Shibari rope designs that you might have seen online.

For beginners, it is advised that you start with the easy stuff; simple ties, soft rope, and lose handcuffs. If you must use the rough stuff, take lessons from a pro. Super tight bondages are likely to damage the nerve or cause injuries.

 

BDSM

This stands for Bondage and Discipline / Domination and Submission / Sadism and Masochism

Simply defined, BDSM involves a variety of erotic lovemaking and role-playing including bondage, discipline and dominance, submission and sadism, and asochism.

Couples who have an interest in BDSM will have to tread cautiously and take it seriously. It is dangerous and involves more than bondage. One peculiar thing about BDSM activities is that it requires both partners to voluntarily reach a consensus. You have to agree to everything you want to do and how you want to do it.

Some people who are into this erotic activities sign a contract setting the boundaries before doing so. This prior consensus is identified by the acronym SSC – Sensible, Safe and Consensual. BDSM activities should work for both parties who most likely derive pleasure through pain.

 

What Is the difference between Bondage and BDSM?

Roles

Two roles are identified in BDSM; the dominant and the submissive. Also called the active, the dominant is the one who controls the action and maintains the initiative as well as enjoys these activities. The submission (passive) is the party who derives pleasure by submitting to the dominant.
Sometimes the couples say who is going to be the slave (submissive party) and who is going to be the master(dominant party).

Of course, these roles could be interchanged sometimes to spice things up. However, it remains the same with most couples.

A sadist who is usually the dominant partner is sexually turned on and derives pleasure by inflicting watching their partner squirm and wriggle from the pains inflicted by the objects used.

On the other hand, masochist usually played by the submissive derives pleasure from having those sorts of intense acts done to them.

 

Safeword

The level of discomfort and pain is determined by the couple. The safe or secret word is a word agreed upon by the parties and used by the submissive partner to indicate an end to the discipline or a dislike to the grade of the activity, or circumstances and wishes to put an end to it.

As part of the ethics of BDSM, the dominant partner will respect the secret word and put an end to the activity.

Since role-playing is part of BDSM, this secret code is necessary because some of the protests of the submissive partner are staged. This communication system, however, helps the dominant understand when the submissive partner is really about the desire to put an end to the activity.

Secret code could be a quick word like “stop”, “fire” and so on. Any word you and your partner are comfortable with will do just fine.

 

Should I Research Before Practicing This?

What Is the difference between Bondage and BDSM?

Permit me to use the cliché “knowledge is power”. BDSM as exciting as it can be could turn to a nightmare if you are overconfident in your skills. Research is one of the most important things you do while exploring BDSM activities, especially to protect your partner. Before you dive knee-deep into the pool of these new exciting addition to your bedroom play, search the internet and get real-life tips on how to play safely while having fun.

You might consider joining a local “munch” in your state, where BDSM life-stylers meet, ask questions and learn from their peers.

Meanwhile, keep yourself in check. Don’t immerse yourself in the scene so much that you forget to check with our partner especially if you are to try new styles. Everyone should feel comfortable and safe.

 

What’s The Attraction To BDSM?

You may be wondering what’s the attraction to being spanked, restrained, blindfolded and other BDSM lifestyles. Let me tell you what happens to the body during orgasm.

For instance, if you are blindfolded or any other practice that removes one of your senses, the other ones take over and try to compensate. When your partner blindfolds you, you have no idea what’s going to happen next. The anticipation builds as each activity is performed leading to a more intense orgasm.

On the other hand, when you are spanked during BDSM, in order to deal with the pain, your body starts to produce pain-killing hormones, known as endorphins. This heightens the orgasms especially when your partner drives you to the edge and pause for a sec. At this point, your body produces more endorphins and oxytocin, giving you more powerful orgasms.

 

BDSM or Not?

 

What did they say about variety being the spice of life?

What Is the difference between Bondage and BDSM?

You can include BDSM in your bedroom fantasy today. However, both partners should be interested in this to really work. If you are not comfortable, find a more agreeable way to spice up your bedroom play too. If you feel comfortable then buckle your seat belt and be ready for a twist in your sex life.

Start with the easy stuff; tying your partner with belts, using loose handcuffs, spanking, and whatever fun your imagination comes up with.

Since BDSM requires more exchange of fluids than other sexual activities, partners must conduct regular test results. Partners will reveal details of the result to each other. While polygamous partners need to conduct such healthy tests from time to time, partners in a monogamous relationship do not need to do that as long as they remain committed and faithful to each other.

It is safe to say that the keywords are consent, safety, and comfortability.While Bondage is limited to only tying up your partner in an uncomfortable position, BDSM goes further to role-playing, spanking and so on.

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